Therapy for Sexual Health & Intimacy. Struggling with Connection, Desire or Body?

Start feeling better. Together we'll make it feel right again.

It's not easy. You're not the only one that thinks so...

You might not know what the right path looks like — and that’s perfectly okay. Therapy helps you make sense of your desires, boundaries, and needs and create a future where intimacy feels right for you.

I wasn't taught how to talk about sex.

I want to trust again, but it’s hard.

I’ve done life alone long enough.

I try to push these feelings away.

I don’t want anyone to see me naked.

I can't talk about this with anyone.

It feels like an obligation sometimes.

I was taught that pleasure is sinful.

We just lost the spark.

I hide my feelings to avoid conflict.

I fake it during sex so they’ll feel better.

I’ve spent so long pleasing others.

I feel guilty for wanting more.

These desires make me feel ashamed.

Intimacy and Sexuality can feel good again. Change begins with one honest Conversation.

Whether you’re feeling stuck, lost, or just curious, therapy gives you the space to reflect, explore, and move forward. It’s not about having all the answers, it’s about discovering what truly matters to you.

Sexuality Is Personal. You Don’t Have to Navigate It Alone.

We all carry stories about sex — from how we grew up, from past partners, from what we were told or what we never got the chance to ask. For some, those stories feel joyful and affirming. For others, they’re tangled with uncertainty, silence, or shame.
Krish Phua
Psychological Counsellor
Certified Sexologist (ABS)
Board Certified Diplomate (ABS)

I'm a Certified Sexologist and Board Certified Diplomate (American Board of Sexology).

I'm Krish Phua — a psychological counsellor and certified sexologist. Over the past ten years, I’ve helped people from all walks of life explore their relationships with sex, intimacy, and self-worth.
Whether you're wrestling with low desire, painful experiences, unspoken questions, or the simple longing for more connection — this is a space where those things can be named, understood, and worked through.

Speak up, because most sexual issues can be improved and yes, often completely resolved.

Sexual health and satisfaction aren’t luxuries — they’re part of your wholeness. Whether you’re working through shame, pain, confusion, or simply want more clarity and connection, we can talk about it — with honesty, safety, and care.

Most of us will face a challenge around sexuality at some point in our lives.

I offer sessions in Zurich, Biel/Bienne, and online — wherever feels safest for you. To begin, I offer a free 15-minute call so you can decide if I’m the right fit

This part of your life matters. Let’s make space for it.

Your Sexuality Is Valid. Your Questions Are Welcome.

In a world that often misunderstands or judges queer identities, finding a space where you can talk openly about sex and intimacy can feel rare — even radical. Whether you’re navigating identity, desire, gender expression, or the impact of past experiences, you deserve a space that affirms who you are.
Krish Phua
Psychological Counsellor
Certified Sexologist (ABS)
Board Certified Diplomate (ABS)
I'm Krish Phua — a psychological counsellor and certified sexologist. I’ve worked with many LGBTQ+ individuals to explore intimacy, self-worth, and healing. I don’t assume. I listen. And I honour the full spectrum of identities, relationships, and experiences you bring with you.
Sexual health and satisfaction aren’t luxuries — they’re part of your wholeness. Whether you’re working through shame, pain, confusion, or simply want more clarity and connection, we can talk about it — with honesty, safety, and care.
I offer sessions in Zurich, Biel/Bienne, and online — wherever feels safest for you. To begin, I offer a free 15-minute call so you can decide if I’m the right fit.

This part of your life matters. Let’s make space for it.

You’re Not Broken. And You’re Not Alone.

There’s a quiet pressure many men carry — to always perform, to never talk about doubt or disappointment in the bedroom. But sex isn’t a performance. It’s connection. And confidence grows not from perfection, but from understanding and self-trust.
Krish Phua
Psychological Counsellor
Certified Sexologist (ABS)
Board Certified Diplomate (ABS)
I’m Krish Phua, a counsellor and certified sexologist with over a decade of experience working with men on issues like performance anxiety, low desire, shame, and communication in intimacy.
You don’t have to pretend it’s fine. You don’t have to carry the pressure alone. Talking about these things might feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s also the first step to clarity and strength.
I offer sessions in Zurich, Biel/Bienne, or online. Our first 15-minute consultation is free — no pressure, no commitment — just a chance to see if this is the right space for you.

Your questions are valid. Your experiences matter. Let’s talk.

Healing Is Possible. And It Doesn’t Have to Hurt More to Begin.

If you've lived through sexual trauma, just reading this might feel difficult. You’ve survived something that no one should have to endure — and that strength deserves care, not silence.
Krish Phua
Psychological Counsellor
Certified Sexologist (ABS)
Board Certified Diplomate (ABS)
I’m Krish Phua, a psychological counsellor and certified sexologist. For over 10 years, I’ve worked with survivors to gently rebuild trust — in themselves, their bodies, and their right to feel safe and connected again.
Therapy with me isn’t about reliving trauma. It’s about moving at your pace, with respect for your boundaries and deep care for your emotional safety. Together, we explore what healing means for you — one step, one conversation at a time.
Sessions are available in Zurich, Biel/Bienne, or online. Our first 15-minute consultation is free — no obligation, no pressure.

You don’t have to do this alone. And you don’t have to be ready all at once. Just ready enough to begin.

Intimacy Isn’t About Being Perfect. It’s About Being Real — Together.

Every couple goes through phases of change — sometimes joyful, sometimes confusing, sometimes painfully distant. When sex starts to feel more like a chore or a conflict than a connection, it can leave both partners feeling alone.
Krish Phua
Psychological Counsellor
Certified Sexologist (ABS)
Board Certified Diplomate (ABS)
I’m Krish Phua, a certified sexologist and relationship counsellor. I’ve helped couples of all backgrounds explore mismatched desire, communication blocks, emotional disconnection, and the tender challenge of trying to reconnect.
In our work together, no one is the villain. We’ll slow down, listen to what each of you really want — and need — and create a space where honesty can lead to intimacy, not conflict.
I offer couples counselling in Zurich, Biel/Bienne, and online. Our first 15-minute call is free — a chance to see if we can work well together.

It’s not too late to reconnect. You don’t have to give up. Let’s begin again — together. 

Let’s Talk about the Elephant in the Bedroom.

Sex and intimacy challenges are often the elephant in the room — big, present, and unspoken. The first step to change? Naming what’s going on. Loudly or quietly — just not silently. 

The first step to change? Naming what's going on.

Here are some of the most common challenges people bring to therapy. You might recognize one — or a few.

Common Challenges in Sexual Health & Intimacy.

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  • male knee and bent leg being tight up with orange ropes by two hands symbolising kinks and fetishes
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    • The next Step...

    Whether you're dealing with emotional, physical, or relational challenges, therapy offers a path toward sexual wellbeing.

    Find Your Therapy

    Find the right therapy option for you - whether alone, with a partner (or more) - I am here to listen and guide you.

    Therapies and Fees

    Individual Counselling Session

    Just for Yourself 

    Space to talk openly about your sexuality, desires, identity, or struggles, at your own pace. I’ll guide you with empathy and expertise.

    Format In-person
    Online
    Duration 60 minutes
    (extensions available)
    Fee CHF 170 In-person
    CHF 150 Online
    Languages English
    Chinese

    Couples or Group Counselling

    For You and Your Partner(s)

    Support for you and your partner(s) to reconnect, communicate, and navigate sexual or emotional challenges together, professionally guided by me.

    Format In-person
    Online
    Duration

    90 minutes

    (extensions available)
    Fee CHF 210 In-person
    CHF 190 Online
    Languages English
    Chinese

    Prefer talking to others?
    Self-Help Groups

    Sometimes it helps to share your story with people who truly understand. Self-help groups offer a safe space to talk, listen, and realise you’re not alone. Krish regularly organises groups on different topics — such as addiction, chemsex, porn use, or other challenges. Many find that connecting with others on a similar path gives them strength, hope, and practical ways to cope.

    Contact me for details

    Choosing Therapy is a big Step. Choosing the right Therapist makes all the Difference.

  • Let me introduce myself:

    I'm Krish, Your Counsellor.

    • I grew up in Singapore, where talking about sex was taboo. I know how isolating that can feel and how healing it is when someone finally listens without judgement. That's why I offer that safe space to others now.

    I’m a Board Certified Diplomate and Certified Sexologist (American Board of Sexology) and a psychological counsellor with over 10 years of experience. 

    If you're curious or just want to get to know me first, you're welcome to book a free intro call — no pressure, no obligations.

    And if you’ve made it this far, I admire your courage. Starting is often the hardest part. But you don’t have to figure it all out on your own...

    How to start therapy?
    It's easier than you think.

    Three simple steps to get support — at your pace, without pressure.

    • Book Your Free Intro Call

      A 15 minute, no-obligation online Consultation to discuss your challenge, how I can support you and to see if we’re a good fit. 

    • Start Your Therapy

      We will meet in-person or online, I’ll guide you, you tell me about your challenge, and together we’ll create a therapy plan that suits you.

    • Create Lasting Change

      Together, we build strategies that help you feel better, think clearer, and live more fully. Change that not only feels good, but truly lasts.

    Why You should choose Mind Insights

    When it comes to something as personal as your sexuality and emotional wellbeing, you want to feel safe, understood, and supported from the very first moment.

    You won’t find one-size-fits-all here.

    At Mind Insights, you get professional support that’s flexible, accessible, and truly personal — from language and location to experience and discretion. 

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    Testimonials
    Curious what it’s like to work with me?

    Here’s how some of my clients have experienced counselling with me. For confidentiality, all testimonials are anonymised and only include age, gender, and nationality.

    I had a series of bad experiences in my life when it came to intimacy and erotic partners. One day I decided that I could not continue like this anymore and I did some research and found Krish's website. I went for a couple of sessions with him and I must say it has helped me a lot. 

    Male, 50sIndia

    Krish made it easy to talk about things I never thought I could say out loud. He listened to me and I did not feel embarassed. It felt so good to say certain things out loud. I understand and accept my sexuality now. I feel so much better and I am glad I had the courage to do this therapy. It was really worth it.

    Female, 40sNetherlands

    I worked with Krish and I am very grateful I met him! He was very warm and I immediately felt that I could trust him. This was very good because the topics we discussed were very personal. I felt like I was talking to a very good friend! After a while I learnt new excercises and to see things from a different perspective. My body felt better and I got more confident. I can say that my sexlife is better now than before thanks to the therapy with Krish.

    Male, 30sSingapore

    We saw Krish during a very difficult time in our marriage. We had almost given up hope after talking to two other therapists, that didn't really help us. We were both almost surprised when he could actually help us finding better ways to cope with our problems. The good thing was, that he never made anyone feel like the bad guy. We could openly say things to each other that we would never dare to say before. And Krish did not judge us. Our relationship is now stronger and after many years of marriage we even managed to "spice up" things a bit. Grazie Mille Krish!

    Male & Female, 40sItaly

    We worked with Krish as our therapist and it helped our relationship a lot. In our four sessions we learnt to understand and listen to each others needs better. This improved the quality of our  (sexual) relationship, but also because we coud openly explore without judgement. Thank you Krish for everything!

    Male & Female, 30sSingapore

    From the very beginning I felt very safe and Krish didn't judge. He guided me to finally explore my sexuality and my fears.  I think Krish is a good therapist, I felt very comfortable with him talking about things I normally wouldn't tell anybody. He shared helpful techniques that I am still using now. He is  a very warm person and he made me feel, like he understands me. I can really recommend him.

    Male, 20sSingapore

    True Story

    How Therapy helped this couple

    Read the inspiring story of a newlywed couple who, with the help of therapy, overcame mismatched desire and rediscovered intimacy.

    • When Desire Doesn’t Match: A Couple’s Journey to Reignite Intimacy

      What happens when sexual desire fades shortly after marriage? This heartfelt story follows a couple navigating mismatched libidos, rejection, and emotional disconnect. With the help of therapy, open communication, and mindfulness, they discover that intimacy isn’t just about sex—but about trust, timing, and understanding each other's fears. A hopeful reminder that passion can return—differently, but deeply.

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    When Desire Doesn’t Match: A Couple’s Journey to Reignite Intimacy

    By Krish Phua

    Have you ever questioned your own sexual attractiveness after being rejected by your partner? You’re not alone. In fact, married couples may be surprised to find that they have a mismatched libido, which is most noticeable after their honeymoon phase. Here’s a story of how one newly married couple bravely journeyed together and recalibrated their libidos.

    Desire and Doubt

    I had a client who sought my help with such a situation. Mrs. ML (early 30s) and Mr. ML (early 40s), were a loving, happy newlywedded couple with plans to start a family. However, their sexual intimacy faded within six months, leaving Mrs. ML feeling confused, frustrated, insecure, and questioning her own attractiveness in sexuality.

    As an Intimacy and Sexual Wellness Therapist, this is a common challenge for couples. The key to reigniting the passion is to understand the root cause. Normally, this begins with understanding the complexities of the situation, which is to explore the following three factors:

    • Biological factors: Medical history, lifestyle habits, and nutrition were considered to rule out any underlying physical issues.
    • Psychological factors: Signs of depression, anxiety, stress, or past traumas that might be impacting intimacy. Emotional and cognitive patterns and expression were also evaluated.
    • Social factors: Relationship dynamics, family and friend support structures, and cultural influences were examined. Effective communication and conflict resolution skills were also assessed.

    The initial findings can help identify several areas for improvement, particularly in how the couple communicates and expresses their emotions, needs, and expectations.

    However, I was not able to pinpoint the exact cause of the decreased sexual intimacy. So, I began therapy with them to understand their issues and concerns both as a couple and individually.

    Am I Slutty

    In an individual therapy with Mrs. ML, a deep sense of self-doubt surfaced. She recounted instances where her husband rejected her requests to “Please touch me” for physical intimacy.

    Tears welled up in Mrs. ML eyes as she whispered, “Well…I guess…I’m no longer attractive to him.” Her softly spoken sounded like thunder across the room, signifying the damage done to her self-esteem.

    Mrs. ML then asked, “Am I slutty?”. I gently yet firmly replied to her that “The opposite of death is desire…”, as Tennessee Williams stressed. Mrs. ML instantly gained an epiphany and smiled.

    From my interactions with married couples in similar situations, I noted that the higher desire partner often feels negative about this misalignment in libido, fearing they may be perceived as lusty, slutty, promiscuous, or even nymphomaniac. Such self-labelling can lead to profound feelings of guilt and shame.

    Mrs. ML and I spent significant time, energy, and resources addressing these negative thought patterns through sexual psychoeducation, emotional expression, and positive reinforcement. Mindfulness exercises and techniques were also introduced to manage anxiety and stress.

    I’m Not Ready

    Mr. ML’s individual session revealed a different story. When asked about Mrs. ML’s potential feelings regarding his intimacy rejections, he struggled to articulate them. It became clear they were grappling with mismatched libido.

    However, after ruling out biological and social factors, the true reason emerged. Mr. ML finally said, “I’m not ready.” Mr. ML, who was approaching his mid-40s, harboured anxieties about fatherhood and job security. These concerns, left unexpressed, led him to withdraw emotionally and physically, sometimes resorting to sleeping separately.

    Mr. ML was in deep thought as I explained the importance of regular sexual intimacy with his wife as a marriage is made of two essential components, Companionship and Eroticism. I shared that this is the only legitimate relationship in our lives that permits such an exchange of physical touch, underscoring the unique and vital role of sexual intimacy in a marriage.

    Rekindle the Flame

    Communication proved to be the missing link. As such, we practiced active listening, expressing appreciation, using “I” statements, and exploring “What if…?” scenarios to address their anxieties, which is about optimistic interpretation based on a trusted relationship.

    Sexual psychoeducation played a crucial role too. We differentiated between intimacy and sexuality, emphasising that intimacy encompasses emotional closeness and trust, while sexuality involves physical aspects. This broadened their understanding of physical intimacy.

    I also shared Cyndi Darnell’s insight: “We haven’t been taught as a culture about sex without a goal.“. This perspective helped the couple view physical intimacy in a broader context, reducing the pressure and stress related to family planning.

    Thus, for the rest of the therapy sessions with me, the couple embarked on self-discovery and acceptance of each other. I guided them on Sensate Focus, a therapeutic technique to help couples enhance their trust, communication, sexual relationship, intimacy and pleasure. They were also taught on how to stay present and attuned to each other during intimate moments through mindfulness exercises.

    In our final scheduled therapy session, Mr. ML, with great excitement, told me, “I’m ready!” while Mrs. ML’s eyes sparkled with tears of happiness!

    Remember, open communication, addressing underlying concerns, and exploring different ways to connect can reignite the spark in your relationship. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help if you find yourselves navigating the complexities of mismatched libido.

     

    “The truth remains that Love and Sex

    are two different languages.

    They can exist harmoniously in the same space

    but can never be a substitute for each other.”

     

    (Dr Jean-Machelle Benn-Dubois)

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